How do you stay in the moment and connect with your child and pregnancy after struggling with infertility, remembering a previous miscarriage or loss of a child (stillborn). There is no doubt that these feeling are normal and only natural.
If your situation was infertility, you are absolutely euphoric that you have finally accomplished what you have worked so hard for; but then you are scared about losing this child, having to repeat all of those complicated infertility treatments and will you get pregnant again?? But you are pregnant, right now!
If you have previously miscarried or carried full term and then lost your child, those same feelings arise leaving you to feel guarded, almost against the little one, so that if something happens again, you are prepared and not as connected. But deep down you know, no matter what happens, you are connected to your baby.
Our thoughts… I took a quick Google search and came up with this little known fact: we have approximately 50,000 thoughts per day. As you know, many of these thoughts will be positive ~ love, joy, gratitude, humorous, etc. While others will be negative ~ fear, worry, anger, jealously, etc.
Now… there are only two options to address our negative thoughts. We can feed and nurture the negative monster or we can starve and ignore him. By starving and ignoring the monster we are able to concentrate on a more positive and peaceful existence.
We choose how we spend our time thinking; we choose to have this monster over for breakfast, lunch, dinner and midnight snack. By giving into these thoughts and providing hospitality to the monster, we are in fact giving permission for his existence. In other words we are in COMPLETE control of our negative thoughts.
Now, applying this to the blog topic… if we immerse ourselves in negative thoughts… we are actually robbing ourselves of the beautiful experience that we have worked so hard to create: the life of a beautiful baby.
Take a minute to excuse yourself from the dining table with the negative monster, and you will find a peace that takes over. When you let that peace and stillness overtake you, your inner wisdom will guide you on a more positive path.
Enjoy the moments of your pregnancy so that you may look back with fondness and joy. Our life is but a series of moments strung together by happiness and heartache. You always want to remember the happiness… it’s what will carry you through any heartache.
Much joy to my friends!