It is so hard to lose a baby. Recently, I have learned of a couple of women that have lost a baby after the first trimester. My heart has been so heavy thinking about these women and their loss. I can’t imagine the sadness after thinking that you were through the cautious time of the first 12 weeks, and in addition to that, feeling baby movement. It was difficult enough to lose my babies within the first trimester.
Whether you have lost a baby in the first 12 weeks, or later, it is certain that your loss is a heavy one. You not only lost your beloved baby, but the dream that this baby brought to you and you and your partner.
It’s so important to implement self-care into your life at this very sorrowful time. When you are feeling so awful, it’s so hard to do that, but try to think of ways… and make a list to organize yourself. As you recover from the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual upheaval… this self-care, in part, may be to think of a way to honor your little one.
How might you do that? You could make a beautiful reminder of your baby, i.e., paint a birdhouse the colors you planned for the nursery, make a garden mosaic or plant a butterfly bush that will attract hoards of beautiful butterflies.
This simple action, will care for and nurture your spirit; express the love you feel for your little one and serve as a reminder of your abiding love for someone who was with you too short a time, but made such a large and lasting imprint on your life.
Hugs and blessings to all of my sisters who have lost a baby,